“All the single ladies! All the single ladies! Now put your hands up!” Did you read that with your Beyoncé voice? I hope so because I wrote it in my Beyoncé voice! And if that’s you, a single lady who put her hand up, I want you to know that with God you can be an UNSTOPPABLE single! You can be a single woman leading a life full of purpose and joy!
Hear me out… I’m not a 19 year old who doesn’t have a prom date (although that can hurt too!). I’m a woman in my early 30’s, who has dreamed of being a wife and mother. I’m a woman in her fourth year of celibacy surrounded by brides and babies! And yet I lead an unstoppable life full of joy. In fact, people who know me often wonder, “Does she ever have a bad day?!” Truth is, I do.
I’ve often wondered; “When will it be my turn?” I’ve felt jealousy upon the arrival of yet another wedding invitation and have even felt frustration at God. However, in those moments I have made the conscience decision to find comfort in His presence and promise.
Psalm 64 says, “Hear me, my God, as I voice my complaint; protect my life from the threat of the enemy.” We have to voice our hurts to the One who can bring us comfort. If we take them anywhere else, we are leaving ourselves open for the enemy to plant seeds of bitterness and envy. Those seeds then have the potential to sabotage what can otherwise be a beautiful season!
Being an UNSTOPPABLE single doesn’t mean ignoring our dreams of family. It means releasing those dreams to Gods timing. It means allowing Him to comfort us as He draws us into His faithfulness in the here and NOW. It means being beautifully transparent and intimate with the One wants to give us our hearts desire! We want to be married. We want to have families. Those desires have been planted in us by our Creator, so there’s NOTHING wrong with that! We just need to remember that the dream is not more important than the one who gave it to us. We need to remember that while we wait, our hearts, do now and forever, belong Jesus.
I’d like to share with you a few practical things that have really helped me. First, you can’t stand on a promise that you don’t have. So go to His word, be in His presence and stand on a scripture that reminds you of His promises for your life!
Second, surround yourself with people who will feed your faith. This is SO IMPORTANT! My girlfriends remind me of my hope in Jesus. And their own love stories are living proof that I don't wait in vain! Don't wait for a husband to fulfill your companionship needs, good girlfriends can fill your heart now!
Lastly, make a list. Not a list of what you’re looking for (although I have one and think it’s helpful) but a list of who YOU want to be for your husband. Spend this time with your Father and allow Him to mold you into Mrs. Right instead of always focusing on your search for Mr. Right!
So cheers to the most special and personal season of our lives ladies; walking hand in hand with our Heavenly Father as we wait for Him to walk us down the aisle!