TURNING CONFLICT INTO BETTER RELATIONSHIPS
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” Matthew 5:9 NIV
THREE PHASES OF CONFLICT
· RECOGNITION: WE HAVE A PROBLEM.
· REACTION: IT’S WORSE THAN WE THOUGHT.
· RESOLUTION: WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?
““Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil… Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” Ephesians 4:26-27, 29, NKJV
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Ephesians 4:2:31NIV
7 FORMS OF MALICE TO AVOID ON THE WAY TO CONFLICT RESOLUTION
“who plots evil with deceit in his heart— he always stirs up conflict.” Proverbs 6:14 NIV
1) DON’T COMPARE YOUR SPOUSE.
2 Corinthians 10:12 NIV
2) DON’T CONDEMN YOUR SPOUSE.
3) DON’T COMMAND YOUR SPOUSE.
4) DON’T THREATEN YOUR SPOUSE.
5) DON’T BE CONDESCENDING TO YOUR SPOUSE.
6) DON’T INTERRUPT YOUR SPOUSE.
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20 NIV
7) DON’T CONFUSE YOUR SPOUSE.
THE RESOLUTION PHASE: WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?
1) YOU CAN ADJUST.
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21 NIV
2) YOU CAN ACCEPT.
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3 NIV
3) YOU CAN COMPROMISE.
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18 NIV
4) YOU CAN RESET THE RELATIONSHIP WITH FORGIVENESS.
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13 NIV