I am the Door - Apr 21 & 22

OPENING THE DOOR TO A BETTER LIFE

“I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” John 10:10 NKJV

TURNING CONFLICT INTO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP  

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” Matthew 5:9 NIV 

“What is the source of conflict among you? What is the source of your disputes? Don’t they come from your cravings that are at war in your own lives? You long for something you don’t have, so you commit murder. You are jealous for something you can’t get, so you struggle and fight. You don’t have because you don’t ask. You ask and don’t have because you ask with evil intentions, to waste it on your own cravings.” James 4:1-3 CEB

THREE PHASES OF CONFLICT

  • RECOGNITION: WE HAVE A PROBLEM. 
  • REACTION: IT’S WORSE THAN I THOUGHT. 
  • RESOLUTION: WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?

 THREE STEPS TO WALK THROUGH THE FIRST PHASE OF CONFLICT

1)    DON’T BACK OFF: AVOIDANCE

“Open rebuke is better Than love carefully concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend…” Proverbs 27:5-6a NKJV

“Honest correction is appreciated more than flattery.” Proverbs 28:23 CEV

2)    DON’T BACK DOWN: APPEASEMENT

“So watch yourselves! “If another believer sins, rebuke that person...”  Luke 17:3a NLT 

“Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ...”  Ephesians 4:15a NLT

3)    DON’T BACK OVER: AGGRESSION

“Whoever loves to argue loves to sin. Whoever brags a lot is asking for trouble.” Proverbs 17:19 NCV 

CONFLICT MAY BE PAINFUL, BUT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE HURTFUL.

·      RIGHT TIME

“The right word spoken at the right time is as beautiful as gold apples in a silver bowl.” Proverbs 25:11 NCV 

““Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” Ephesians 4:26-27 NKJV 

·      RIGHT TONE

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 NKJV

·      RIGHT PLACE

““If your fellow believer sins against you, go and tell him in private what he did wrong. If he listens to you, you have helped that person to be your brother or sister again.” Matthew 18:15 NCV