Matters of the Heart July 20 & 21

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“Cast your burden on the Lord — he will support you!
God will never let the righteous be shaken! ”
Psalm 5:22 (CEB)

MATTERS OF THE HEART

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life.”
Proverbs 4:23 NKJV

THE HEART DISEASE OF__________________ AND __________________

“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on the cause of your anger. Do not give the devil an opportunity.” Ephesians 4:26-27 NET

“Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”  Hebrews 12:15b NLT

FORGIVENESS IS THE __________________TO BITTERNESS AND RESENTMENT

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV

THREE APPROACHES TO FORGIVENESS

·      I KNOW I SHOULD

·      WHY SHOULD I ?

·      I TRIED

JESUS TACKLES THE ISSUE OF FORGIVENESS

 “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded. “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’ “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened. “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”” Matthew 18:21-35 NIV

FOUR HEART EXERCISES TO HELP YOU TO FORGIVE


1)   
__________________WHO YOU ARE ANGRY WITH

“Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry?’’ Genesis 4:6a NIV

2)   
__________________WHAT THEY OWE YOU

“That is why I was angry with that generation; I said, “Their hearts are always going astray, and they have not known my ways.” Hebrews 3:10 NIV

3)   
__________________TO CANCEL THE DEBT

“Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.” Colossians 3:13 NKJV

4)    DON’T _________________YOUR OFFENSE

“For judgment is without mercy to the one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.” James 2:13 NKJV

Matters of the Heart July 13 & 14

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“For whatever is born of God overcomes the world.
And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith.”
1 John 5:4 (NKJV)

MATTERS OF THE HEART

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life.”
Proverbs 4:23 NKJV

THE FIRST STEP TO HEART HEALTH IS TO ASK GOD TO EXAMINE OUR HEARTS.

“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”
Psalms 139:23-24 

“Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things. But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” Matthew 12:33-37 NKJV

ENEMY OF THE HEART “GUILT AND SHAME’’

“Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” Genesis 2:25 NIV

THE STRUGGLE WITH SHAME IS COMMON.

“I live in disgrace all day long, and my face is covered with shame.” Psalms 44:15 NIV

  • Adam and Eve, the shame of being exposed. Genesis 3:10

  • Sarah and Abraham, the shame of barrenness. Genesis 16

  • Gideon, the shame of his family. Judges 6

  • Mephibosheth, the shame of his disability. 2 Samuel 9

  • David, the shame of adultery. 2 Samuel 11

  • Women with the issue of blood; shame of impunity. Mark 5:24

  • Blind Bartimaeus, the shame of being a beggar. Mark 10:46-52

  • Judas, the shame of betrayal. Matthew 27:3-5

THREE HEART HEALING EXERCISES FOR GUILT AND SHAME:

1)    ACCEPT GOD’S FORGIVENESS AND LOVE.

“In You, O LORD, I put my trust; let me never be put to shame.” Psalms 71:1 NKJV

“How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself without spot to God, cleanse your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?” Hebrews 9:14 NKJV

2)    BRING YOUR GUILT INTO THE LIGHT.

“When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.” And you forgave the guilt of my sin.” Psalms 32:3-5 NIV

“We now have this light shining in our hearts, but we ourselves are like fragile clay jars containing this great treasure. This makes it clear that our great power is from God, not from ourselves.” 2 Corinthians 4:7 NLT

“And the prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” James 5:15-16 NKJV

3)    MAKE AMENDS WHERE POSSIBLE.

“Do the things that show you really have changed your hearts and lives.”
Matthew 3:8 NCV

“Then Zacchaeus stood and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord, I give half of my goods to the poor; and if I have taken anything from anyone by false accusation, I restore fourfold.” And Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house.”
Luke 19:8-9a NKJV

Matters of the Heart July 6 & 7

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“Everything you ask for in prayer will be yours, if you only have faith.”
Mark 11:24 (CEB)
 

MATTERS OF THE HEART

SO HOW IS YOUR HEART?

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23 NKJV

    ISSUES MEANS:

  • BOUNDARIES

  • DELIVERANCE

  • SOURCE

“My heart is overflowing with a good theme; I recite my composition concerning the King; My tongue is the pen of a ready writer.” Psalms 45:1 NKJV

 

I) LIFE CAN BE HARD ON OUR HEARTS.

1) WE CAN DEVELOP HABITS THAT ERODE THE SENSITIVITY OF OUR HEARTS.
2) WE DEVELOP ATTITUDES THAT GET STUCK IN OUR HEARTS.
3) WE DEVELOP THE LANGUAGE OF THE WOUNDED HEART. 

II) WE CAN HAVE HEART PROBLEMS AND NOT KNOW IT.

“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9 NIV

III) THE SOURCE OF ALL INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIORS, UNHEALTHY ATTITUDES, AND HURTFUL WORDS COME FROM THE HEART.

“When He had called the multitude to Himself, He said to them, “Hear and understand: Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.”” Matthew 15:10-11 NKJV

“Then Peter answered and said to Him, “Explain this parable to us.” So Jesus said, “Are you also still without understanding? Do you not yet understand that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and is eliminated? But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. These are the things which defile a man, but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man.”” Matthew 15:15-20 NKJV

IV) WHEN WE CHANGE THE TREASURE OF OUR HEART, WE CHANGE THE FRUIT OF OUR LIVES.

“Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things.” Matthew 12:33-35 NKJV

THE GOOD NEWS

“The Spirit of the LORD is upon Me, Because……. He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted.” Luke 4:18 NKJV

“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” Ezekiel 36:26 NKJV

Prevailing Prayer June 29 & 30

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in
the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching
them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am
with you always, even to the end of the age.” Amen
Matthew 28:18-20 (NKJV)
 

PREVAILING PRAYER

GOD WANTS YOU TO CALL.

“‘Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know.’” Jeremiah 33:3 NKJV

“For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.” II Chronicles 16:9a NKJV

THREE KEYS TO PREVAILING PRAYER

“The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.” James 5:16b NKJV

1) PRAYING WITH RIGHTEOUSNESS Luke 18:9-18

“As it is written: ‘There is none righteous, no, not one.’” Romans 3:10 NKJV

“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” John 1:8-9 NKJV

  • WHEN WE TURN OUR HEARTS, HE HEALS.

“If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” II Chronicles 7:14 NKJV

2)    PRAY EFFECTIVELY.

HOW?

  • USE  GOD’S WORD.

“Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.” John 5:14-15 NKJV

  • ALLOW THE HOLY SPIRIT TO INSPIRE YOU.

“The hand of the LORD came upon me and brought me out in the Spirit of the LORD, and set me down in the midst of the valley; and it was full of bones. Then He caused me to pass by them all around, and behold, there were very many in the open valley; and indeed they were very dry. And He said to me, “Son of man, can these bones live?” So I answered, “O Lord GOD, You know.” Again He said to me, “Prophesy to these bones, and say to them, ‘O dry bones, hear the word of the LORD! Thus says the Lord GOD to these bones: “Surely I will cause breath to enter into you, and you shall live. I will put sinews on you and bring flesh upon you, cover you with skin and put breath in you; and you shall live. Then you shall know that I am the LORD.”’” So I prophesied as I was commanded; and as I prophesied, there was a noise, and suddenly a rattling; and the bones came together, bone to bone. Indeed, as I looked, the sinews and the flesh came upon them, and the skin covered them over; but there was no breath in them. Also He said to me, “Prophesy to the breath, prophesy, son of man, and say to the breath, ‘Thus says the Lord GOD: “Come from the four winds, O breath, and breathe on these slain, that they may live.”’” So I prophesied as He commanded me, and breath came into them, and they lived, and stood upon their feet, an exceedingly great army.” Ezekiel 37:1-10 NKJV

  • ASK FOR YOUR HEART’S DESIRE.

““What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked him. The blind man said, “Rabbi, I want to see.”” Mark 10:51 NIV

  • PRAY USING JESUS’ NAME.

“And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.” John 14:13 NKJV

3)    PRAY FERVENTLY.

“The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].” James 5:16b AMPC

“Now they came to Jericho. As He went out of Jericho with His disciples and a great multitude, blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaeus, sat by the road begging. And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out and say, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” Then many warned him to be quiet; but he cried out all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!” So Jesus stood still and commanded him to be called. Then they called the blind man, saying to him, “Be of good cheer. Rise, He is calling you.” And throwing aside his garment, he rose and came to Jesus. So Jesus answered and said to him, “What do you want Me to do for you?” The blind man said to Him, “Rabboni, that I may receive my sight.” Then Jesus said to him, “Go your way; your faith has made you well.” And immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus on the road.” Mark 10:46-52 NKJV

Prevailing Prayer June 22 & 23

PRAYING FOR BREAKTHROUGH

“Epaphras, who is one of you and a servant of Christ Jesus, sends greetings. He is always wrestling in prayer for you, that you may stand firm in all the will of God, mature and fully assured.” Colossians 4:12 NIV

“My little children, for whom I labor in birth again until Christ is formed in you,” Galatians 4:19 NKJV

PREVAILING PRAYER IS PRAYING UNTIL WE HAVE A BREAKTHROUGH ON THE INSIDE

“Coming out, He went to the Mount of Olives, as He was accustomed, and His disciples also followed Him. When He came to the place, He said to them, “Pray that you may not enter into temptation.” And He was withdrawn from them about a stone’s throw, and He knelt down and prayed, saying, “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless, not My will, but Yours, be done.” Then an angel appeared to Him from heaven, strengthening Him. And being in agony, He prayed more earnestly. Then His sweat became like great drops of blood falling down to the ground. When He rose up from prayer, and had come to His disciples, He found them sleeping from sorrow. Then He said to them, “Why do you sleep? Rise and pray, lest you enter into temptation.”  Luke 22:39-46 NKJV

THE ENEMY WANTS TO SILENCE YOUR VOICE

“Now, Lord, look on their threats, and grant to Your servants that with all boldness they may speak Your word, by stretching out Your hand to heal, and that signs and wonders may be done through the name of Your holy Servant Jesus.” And when they had prayed, the place where they were assembled together was shaken; and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit, and they spoke the word of God with boldness.”  Acts 4:29-31 NKJV

 “And with great power the apostles gave witness to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And great grace was upon them all.”  Acts 4:33 NKJV 

 WHEN WE PRAY PREVAILING PRAYERS GOD WANTS TO GIVE YOU WORDS TO PRAY

 “So, he answered and said to me: “This is the word of the LORD to Zerubbabel: ‘Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ Says the LORD of hosts. ‘Who are you, O great mountain? Before Zerubbabel you shall become a plain! And he shall bring forth the capstone with shouts of “Grace, grace to it!”  Zechariah 4:6-7 NKJV

GOD WANTS TO PUT HIS WORD IN YOUR MOUTH

“So is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.”  Isaiah 55:11 NIV

1)    GOD WANTS TO GIVE YOU CREATIVE WORDS OF DECLARATIONS

“The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed earnestly that it would not rain; and it did not rain on the land for three years and six months. And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth produced its fruit.” James 5:16-18 NKJV

2)    GOD WANTS TO GIVE YOU WORDS FOR SPIRITUAL WARFARE

“Jesus said to him, “Away from me, Satan! For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only.’” Then the devil left him, and angels came and attended him.” Matthew 4:10-11 NIV

 “And take the helmet of salvation and the sword that the Spirit wields, which is the Word of God.” Ephesians 6:17 AMPC

Father's Day at Capital - June 15 & 16

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to
forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
John 1:9 (NKJV)
 

Father's Day at Capital

PASTOR DAVE MINTON

“He raised up for them David as king, to whom also He gave testimony and said, ‘I have found David the son of Jesse, a man after My own heart, who will do all My will.’” Acts 13:22 NKJV 

My question to you: What kind of man are you?

The man he was
The man he wanted to be
The man that God saw

 David was a man after God’s own heart because God could turn his heart.

Create in me a pure heart, God, and make my spirit right again.” Psalms 51:10 NCV

David was a man after God’s heart not because he was perfect, but because God could turn him.

My question to you: Can God turn your heart?

“And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.”
Malachi 4:6 NKJV

Has your heart gotten indifferent?
Has your heart gotten discouraged?

David went from adultery to a pure heart.
David went from being a transgressor to teaching transgressors.
David went from being selfish to a worshipper of God.

“Now when David had served God’s purpose in his own generation, he fell asleep.” Acts 13:36 NIV

If God can turn your heart, it can turn the hearts of other people.

DREW MINTON

Transformation

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2 NKJV

How do we respond to transformation?

Take a breath.

“Parents, don’t come down too hard on your children or you’ll crush their spirits.” Colossians 3:21 MSG

Limbic Learning

ROGER PHILLIPS

To forge a legacy, I must:

1.    Have a vision
2. Listen
3. Repent and forgive

Relationship Goals - June 8 & 9

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of
God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Romans 6:23 (NKJV)
 

RELATIONSHIP GOALS

THE FOUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP GOALS

  • CHRIST CENTERED

  • PURPOSE DRIVEN

  • PROBLEM SOLVING

  • COVENANT KEEPING

TODAY LET’S TALK ABOUT COVENANT KEEPING.

“Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”” Mathew 19:3-6 NIV

GOD WANTS OUR COVENANT TO CREATE SAFETY IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

“The name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” Proverbs 18:10 NIV

HOW TO PRACTICE SAFETY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP:

“Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” Ephesians 4:26-27 NKJV

 “So, husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.” Ephesians 5:28-29 NKJV

1)    INTENTIONALLY COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS OF LOVE, ACCEPTANCE AND APPRECIATION.

“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.”
Proverbs 18:21 MSG

“Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.” Matthew 12:37 MSG

2)    BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT HOW YOU GREET AND LEAVE EACH OTHER.

“Greet one another with a holy kiss.” 2 Corinthians 13:12 NIV

3)    INTENTIONALLY RENEW YOUR OWN MIND ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2 NI 

4)    INTENTIONALLY CHOOSE TO FORGIVE.

“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13 NLT

Relationship Goals - June 1 & 2

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord
and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead,
you will be saved.” Romans 10:9 (NKJV)
 

RELATIONSHIP GOALS

“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” Amos 3:3 NKJV

THE FOUR MOST IMPORTANT LIFE GOALS:

  • CHRIST CENTERED

  • PURPOSE DRIVEN

  • PROBLEM SOLVING

  • COVENANT KEEPING

PROBLEM SOLVING (part 2)

“For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith.” John 5:4 NKJV

IT STARTS WITH ME.

“If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”
Romans 12:18 NKJV

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.”
Mathew 5:9 NKJV

SEEK PEACE WITH YOUR ENEMY.

“For He who would love life and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips from speaking deceit. Let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.” 1 Peter 3:10-11 NKJV

TO BE A PEACEMAKER, I MUST LOOK AT MYSELF FIRST.

“If you judge others, you will be judged the same way you judge them. God will treat you the same way you treat others. Why do you notice the small piece of dust that is in your friend’s eye, but you don’t notice the big piece of wood that is in your own? Why do you say to your friend, ‘Let me take that piece of dust out of your eye’? Look at yourself first! You still have that big piece of wood in your own eye. You are a hypocrite! First, take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to get the dust out of your friend’s eye.” Matthew 7:2-5 ERV

1)    WHAT’S IN MY EYE?

“Your eye is like a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is filled with light. But when your eye is unhealthy, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!” Matthew 6:22-23 NLT

“…looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross…” Hebrews 12:2a NKJV

2)    WHAT’S IN MY HEART?

“Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from the selfish desires that make war inside you. You want things, but you don’t get them. So you kill and are jealous of others. But you still cannot get what you want. So you argue and fight. You don’t get what you want because you don’t ask God.” James 4:1-2 ERV

“And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.” Ezekiel 36:26 NLT

3)    WHO IS IN MY EARS?

“But I fear, lest somehow, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness, so your minds may be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.” 2 Corinthians 11:3 NKJV

“I was in the Spirit on the Lord’s Day, and I heard behind me a loud voice, as of a trumpet...Then I turned to see the voice that spoke with me.” Revelation 1:10, 12 NKJV

4)    WHAT’S IN MY MOUTH?

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18 NIV

“A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4 NKJV

“…God, who gives life to the dead and calls those things which do not exist as though they did…” Romans 4:17b NKJV

“By faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that the things which are seen were not made of things which are visible.” Hebrews 11:3 NKJV

“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.”
Ephesians 4:29-30 NKJV

5)    WHAT’S IN MY HAND?

“My friends, do not try to punish others when they wrong you, …But you should do this: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink. Doing this will be like pouring burning coals on his head.” Do not let evil defeat you, but defeat evil by doing good.” Romans 12:19a-21 NCV 

  • I AM SORRY.

  • I WAS WRONG.

  • CAN YOU FIND IT IN YOUR HEART TO FORGIVE ME?

  • WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT?

Relationship Goals - May 25 & 26

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation;
old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”
2 Corinthians 5:17 (NKJV)

RELATIONSHIP GOALS

NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE GOOD FOR YOU.

“The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26 NKJV

THE FOUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP GOALS:

  • CHRIST CENTERED

  • PURPOSE DRIVEN

  • PROBLEM SOLVING

  • COVENANT KEEPING

TODAY LET’S LOOK AT PROBLEM SOLVING.

“For everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith.” 1 John 5:4 NIV

WHEN YOU’RE STRUGGLING MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHO THE REAL ENEMY IS.

“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore, put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.” Ephesians 6:12-13 NIV

ASK YOURSELF, “IS THIS A SPIRITUAL BATTLE?”

“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8 NIV

TWO WAYS THE DEVIL OFTEN ATTACKS

1)  DISTRACTION

“Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!” Song of Songs 2:15 NLT

2) SEDUCTION

“For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.” 1 John 2:16 NIV

 “A satisfied soul loathes the honeycomb, but to a hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.” Proverbs 27:7 NKJV

TWO EXTREMES:

THIS IS DUMB
I AM IN REAL TROUBLE

“If you think you are strong, you should be careful not to fall. The only temptation that has come to you is that which everyone has. But you can trust God, who will not permit you to be tempted more than you can stand. But when you are tempted, he will also give you a way to escape so that you will be able to stand it.”
1 Corinthians 10:12-13 NCV

THREE TAKE AWAYS

1) DON’T FIGHT THE DEVIL IN HIS TURF.
“Do not set foot on the path of the wicked or walk in the way of evildoers. Avoid it, do not travel on it; turn from it and go on your way.” Proverbs 4:14-15 NIV

2) PUT ON YOUR ARMOR.
“Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” Ephesians 6:11 NKJV

“Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, long suffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.” Colossians 3:12-15 NKJV

3) HOLD HANDS AND PRAY USING GOD’S WORD, “NOT TODAY DEVIL.”
“He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.” 1 John 4:4b NKJV

“In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him.” Romans 8:37b NKJV

“What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” Romans 8:31 NKJV

“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony.” Revelation 12:11 NIV

“No weapon formed against you shall prosper.” Isaiah 54:17a NKJV

 

Relationship Goals - May 18 & 19

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSE

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Philippians 4:13 (NKJV)

RELATIONSHIP GOALS 

THE FOUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP GOALS:

  • CHRIST CENTERED

  • PURPOSE DRIVEN

  • PROBLEM SOLVING

  • COVENANT KEEPING

RELATIONSHIP GOAL NUMBER TWO: PURPOSE DRIVEN

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”” Genesis 1:27-28 NKJV

ONE OF THE GREATEST THINGS ANY RELATIONSHIP CAN HAVE IS A UNIFIED DRIVING FORCE.

“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.” Genesis 2:24-25 NLT

THE PROBLEM:
WHAT GOD WANTS TO UNITE AND THE DEVIL WANTS TO DIVIDE Genesis 3:1-13

“And if a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” Mark 3:25 NKJV

THE QUESTION:
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN UNITE AND UNTIE?

“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8 NLT

THE CHALLENGE:
FINDING YOUR MISSION TOGETHER
”Oh, magnify the LORD with me, and let us exalt His name together.” Psalm 34:3

THE TWO MOST POWERFUL FORCES THAT UNITE US:

  • A COMMON MISSION

  • A COMMON ENEMY

ASK YOURSELVES:

  • WHAT DO WE LOVE?

  • WHAT DO WE HATE?

  • IF WE HAD A MISSION WHAT WOULD IT BE?

  • IF WE HAD AN ENEMY OR INJUSTICE TO REMOVE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

  • HOW CAN WE GUARD AGAINST STRIFE?

“Therefore, if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.” Philippians 2:1-5 NIV

1)    STAY UNITED IN CHRIST.

2)    BE LIKEMINDED BY BECOMING TEACHABLE.

“Cast out the scoffer, and contention will leave; yes, strife and reproach will cease.” Proverbs 22:10 NKJV

3)    PUT SELFISH AMBITION IN CHECK BY PRACTICING HUMILITY.

“By pride comes nothing but strife.” Proverbs 13:10a NKJV

“For as the churning of milk produces butter, and wringing the nose produces blood, so the forcing of wrath produces strife.” Proverbs 30:33 NKJV