A Place to Worship - Jul 7 & 8

A PLACE TO WORSHIP
HOW DO WE WORSHIP GOD IN SPIRIT AND TRUTH? 

“The woman said to Him, “Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet. Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, and you Jews say that in Jerusalem is the place where one ought to worship.” Jesus said to her, “Woman, believe Me, the hour is coming when you will neither on this mountain, nor in Jerusalem, worship the Father. “You worship what you do not know; we know what we worship, for salvation is of the Jews.” But the hour is coming, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him. God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.” The woman said to Him, “I know that Messiah is coming” (who is called Christ). “When He comes, He will tell us all things.” Jesus said to her, “I who speak to you am He.”” John 4:19-26 NKJV

WHAT IS GOD LOOKING FOR?  TRUE WORSHIPPERS

1)     WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO WORSHIP GOD IN TRUTH?

“All your words are true; all your righteous laws are eternal.” Psalm 119:160 NIV

“Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth.” John 17:17 NIV

“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17 NIV

 ·       SOME PEOPLE TRY TO WORSHIP GOD WHILE QUESTIONING HIS LOVE.

“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 NKJV

“We love Him because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19 NKJV

 ·       SOME PEOPLE TRY TO WORSHIP GOD BY REDEFINING HIM.

“They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.” Romans 1:25 NIV

·       SOME PEOPLE TRY TO WORSHIP GOD WITH ZEAL BUT LITTLE TRUTH.

“For I can testify about them that they are zealous for God, but their zeal is not based on knowledge. Since they did not know the righteousness of God and sought to establish their own, they did not submit to God’s righteousness.” Romans 10:2-3 NIV

2)     WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO WORSHIP GOD IN SPIRIT?

“Jesus answered, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.”” John 3:5-6 NKJV

“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes, and you will keep My judgments and do them.” Ezekiel 36:26-27 NKJV  

·       IT INVOLVES MY WHOLE HEART

“Bless the LORD, O my soul; And all that is within me, bless His holy name!” Psalm 103:1 NKJV

 ·       IT INVOLVES MY BROKENNESS

“The sacrifice God wants is a broken spirit. God, you will not reject a heart that is broken and sorry for sin.” Psalm 51:17 NCV

·       IT INVOLVES MY GLADNESS

“Serve the LORD with gladness; Come before His presence with singing. Know that the LORD, He is God; It is He who has made us, and not we ourselves; We are His people and the sheep of His pasture.” Psalm 100:2-3 NKJV

·       IT INVOLVES GIVING GOD MY CONSENT

““For with God nothing will be impossible.” Mary said, “I am the servant of the Lord. May it be unto me according to your word.”” Luke 1:37-38 MEV

“But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.” John 16:13 NIV

3)     DOES MY WORSHIP PRODUCE THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT?

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23 NKJV

“Every day I will bless You, And I will praise Your name forever and ever. Great is the LORD, and greatly to be praised; And His greatness is unsearchable. One generation shall praise Your works to another, And shall declare Your mighty acts.” Psalm 145:2-4 NKJV

A Place to Worship - Jun 30 & Jul 1

JOHN 4:1-24 IS A BEAUTIFUL STORY ABOUT WORSHIP.

“Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?”” John 4:7 NIV

“The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.)” John 4:9 NIV

“Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.”” John 4:10 NI

“The woman said to Him, “Sir, You have nothing to draw with, and the well is deep. Where then do You get that living water?”” John 4:11 NKJV

“Jesus answered and said to her, “Whoever drinks of this water will thirst again, but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life.”” John 4:13-14 NKJV

“But the hour is coming, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him. God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.” John 4:23-24 NKJV

SO WHAT IS WORSHIP ANYWAY?

“‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. Their worship is a farce, for they teach man-made ideas as commands from God.” Matthew 15:8-9 NLT

TRUE WORSHIP IS THE INNER VALUE AND RESPOND WE PLACE ON GOD’S WORTH

“The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.” Matthew 13:44 NIV

4 WAYS WE ARE TO RESPOND TO GOD IN WORSHIP

·      WE CAN RESPOND TO GOD WITH OUR POSTURE.

“Oh come, let us worship and bow down; Let us kneel before the LORD our Maker.” Psalm 95:6 NKJV

·      WE CAN RESPOND TO GOD WITH OUR MOUTH.

“Therefore by Him let us continually offer the sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit of our lips, giving thanks to His name.” Hebrews 13:15 NKJV

·      WE CAN RESPOND TO GOD BY LISTENING.

“He says, “Be still, and know that I am God.”” Psalm 46:10 NIV

·      WE CAN RESPOND TO GOD WITH OUR OBEDIENCE.

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.” Romans 12:1 NIV

Father's Day - Jun 16 & 17

GOD WANTS YOU TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS FATHER

“This, then, is how you should pray: ‘Our Father in heaven…’” Matthew 6:9a NIV 

“Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Colossians 3:21 NKJV

·       GOD WANTS YOU TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS FATHER AND HELP HIM REACH OTHERS.

“And He will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.” Malachi 4:6 NKJV 

FIVE WAYS GOD WANTS US TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS FATHER

1)    GOD WANTS YOU TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS A CARING FATHER. 

“So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when He adopted you as His own children. Now we call Him, “Abba, Father.” For His Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children.” Romans 8:15-16 NLT

“Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.” 1 Peter 5:7 NLT

“So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ … your heavenly Father knows that you need them.” Matthew 6:31-32b NIV

2)    GOD WANTS YOU TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS A NURTURING AND GUIDING FATHER.

“And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4 NKJV

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:5-9 NIV 

3)    GOD WANTS YOU TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS AN AFFIRMING FATHER.

“And a voice came from heaven, “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.”” Mark 1:11 ESV

“And I also say to you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build My church…” Matthew 16:18a NKJV

4)    GOD WANTS YOU TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS A CORRECTING FATHER.

“And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as His children? He said, “My child, don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline, and don’t give up when He corrects you. For the Lord disciplines those He loves, and He punishes each one He accepts as his child.”” Hebrews 12:5-6 NLT

5)    GOD WANTS YOU TO EXPERIENCE HIM AS A RESTORING FATHER.

“But when he came to himself, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you, and I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Make me like one of your hired servants.”’ And he arose and came to his father. But when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him. And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight, and am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet. And bring the fatted calf here and kill it, and let us eat and be merry; for this my son was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ And they began to be merry.” Luke 15:17-24 NKJV

I am the Door - Jun 9 & 10

OPENING THE DOOR TO FINANCIAL PEACE

 THE STEWARDSHIP OF SUCCESS

“I am the LORD your God, who teaches you to profit, Who leads you by the way you should go.” Isaiah 48:17b NKJV

“But remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your ancestors, as it is today.” Deuteronomy 8:18 NIV

1)    WEALTH IS A GIFT. 

“When you have eaten and are satisfied, praise the Lord your God for the good land he has given you. Be careful that you do not forget the Lord your God, failing to observe his commands, his laws and his decrees that I am giving you this day. Otherwise, when you eat and are satisfied, when you build fine houses and settle down, and when your herds and flocks grow large and your silver and gold increase and all you have is multiplied, then your heart will become proud and you will forget the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. He led you through the vast and dreadful wilderness, that thirsty and waterless land, with its venomous snakes and scorpions. He brought you water out of hard rock. He gave you manna to eat in the wilderness, something your ancestors had never known, to humble and test you so that in the end it might go well with you. You may say to yourself, “My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.” But remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your ancestors, as it is today.” Deuteronomy 8:10-18 NIV

“And I will give this people favor in the sight of the Egyptians; and it shall be, when you go, that you shall not go empty-handed. But every woman shall ask of her neighbor, namely, of her who dwells near her house, articles of silver, articles of gold, and clothing; and you shall put them on your sons and on your daughters. So you shall plunder the Egyptians.”” Exodus 3:21-22 NKJV

2)    WEALTH IS RELATIVE.

“People who have wealth but lack understanding are like the beasts that perish.” Psalm 49:20 NIV

3)    WEALTH IS A RESPONSIBILITY.

““Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches?” Luke 16:10-11 NIV

AVOID THE PITFALLS OF MONEY:

  • THE LOVE OF MONEY CAN PULL ME AWAY FROM GOD AND INTO INDULGENCE.

“People who want to be rich fall into all sorts of temptations and traps. They are caught by foolish and harmful desires that drag them down and destroy them. The love of money causes all kinds of trouble. Some people want money so much they have given up their faith and caused themselves a lot of pain.” 1 Timothy 6:9-10 CEV

  • MONEY WILL MAKE ME HAPPY.

“Those who love money will never have enough. How meaningless to think that wealth brings true happiness! The more you have, the more people come to help you spend it. So what good is wealth—except perhaps to watch it slip through your fingers!” Ecclesiastes 5:10-11 NLT

  • MONEY WILL GRANT ME SECURITY.

“Be wise enough not to wear yourself out trying to get rich. Your money can be gone in a flash, as if it had grown wings and flown away like an eagle.” Proverbs 23:4-5 GNT

  • MONEY WILL MAKE ME MORE IMPORTANT THAN OTHERS.

“And He said to them, “Take heed and beware of covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.”” Luke 12:15 NKJV

4)    WEALTH IS A COMMITMENT.

“Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.” Joshua 1:8 NLT

“Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth.” Proverbs 10:4 NIV

BE DILIGENT

  • TRADE YOUR TIME
  • TRADE YOUR ABILITY
  • TRADE YOUR WISDOM
  • TRADE YOUR MONEY

WORSHIP GOD WITH YOUR WEALTH

“Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the best part of everything you produce.” Proverbs 3:9 NLT

“Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” Matthew 6:21 NLT

 “So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work.” 2 Corinthians 9:7-8 NKJV

I am the Door - Jun 2 & 3

The Hidden Blessing in Plunder

“He was the one who prayed to the God of Israel, “Oh, that you would bless me and expand my territory! Please be with me in all that I do and keep me from all trouble and pain!” And God granted him his request…”” 1 Chronicles 4:10 NLT

Bless Me

Expand Me

Be with Me

Protect Me

“But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole.” Proverbs 6:31NLT

“And David enquired at the LORD, saying, Shall I pursue after this troop? shall I overtake them? And he answered him, pursue: for thou shalt surely overtake them, and without fail recover all.” 1 Samuel 30:8 KJV

Prosperity is getting back what the enemy has stolen from you AND much, much more.

“And now see what the armies of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir are doing. You would not let our ancestors invade those nations when Israel left Egypt, so they went around them and did not destroy them.” 2 Chronicles 20:10

This is what the Lord says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s. Tomorrow, march out against them.” 2 Chronicles 20:15-16

The Lord brought about a great victory:

"King Jehoshaphat and his men went out to gather the plunder. They found vast amounts of equipment, clothing, and other valuables—more than they could carry. There was so much plunder that it took them three days just to collect it all!” 2 Chronicles 20:25 NLT

“The whole countryside is open to you. Take your choice of any section of the land you want, and we will separate. If you want the land to the left, then I’ll take the land on the right. If you prefer the land on the right, then I’ll go to the left.” Genesis 13:9

“The victorious invaders then plundered Sodom and Gomorrah and headed for home, taking with them all the spoils of war and the food supplies. They also captured Lot—Abram’s nephew who lived in Sodom—and carried off everything he owned.” Genesis 14:11

“They recovered all the plunder along with nephew Lot and his possessions, including the women and the people.” Genesis 14:16 MSG

“… the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous.” Proverbs 13:22 NKJV

Abram took possession of the wealth of Sodom and Gomorrah without ever entering Sodom and Gomorrah.

God used an attack of the enemy to transfer finances into the hands of Abram.

What the enemy meant for evil God turned it around for good.

““And blessed be God Most High, who has defeated your enemies for you.” Then Abram gave Melchizedek a tenth of all the goods he had recovered.” Genesis 14:20

“Thus says the Lord, the God of Israel: I anointed you king of Israel, and I delivered you out of the hand of Saul. 8 And I gave you a house, and your wives and children, and gave you the house of Israel and of Judah;” 2 Samuel 12:7

“And I gave you a house, and your wives and children, and gave you the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would have added that much again.” 2 Samuel 12:8

“The Lord will conquer your enemies when they attack you. They will attack you from one direction, but they will scatter from you in seven!” Deuteronomy 28:7 NLT

When YOUR enemy attacks you THE LORD will conquer YOUR enemy.

I am the Door - May 26 & 27

OPENING THE DOOR TO FINANCIAL PEACE

ONE OF THE BIGGEST PROBLEMS TO FINANCIAL PEACE IS FEELING LIKE I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH.

“Someone in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.” Jesus replied, “Man, who appointed me a judge or an arbiter between you?” Then he said to them, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.”” Luke 12:13-15 NIV

FINANCIAL PEACE IS A JOURNEY.

“Thus says the LORD, your Redeemer, The Holy One of Israel: “I am the LORD your God, Who teaches you to profit, Who leads you by the way you should go.” Isaiah 48:17 NKJV

PROSPER MEANS

  • To push forward
  • To breakout
  • To crossover 

1)    FINANCIAL PEACE STARTS WITH PUTTING GOD FIRST.

 “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” Matthew 6:33 NKJV

“I have been young, and now am old; Yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his descendants begging bread.” Psalms 37:25 NKJV

2)    FINANCIAL PEACE COMES WHEN WE GET WISDOM.

“The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.” Proverbs 19:8 NIV

“The commandment is a lamp and instruction a light; corrective teaching is the path of life.” Proverbs 6:23 CEB

“Everyone who was in trouble, in debt, or in desperate circumstances gathered around David, and he became their leader. Approximately four hundred men joined him.” 1 Samuel 22:2 CEB

3)    FINANCIAL PEACE CAN COME WHEN WE CREATE A BUDGET AND LIVE WITH SUFFICIENT MARGINS.

“And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19 NKJV

 “When you harvest your land’s produce, you must not harvest all the way to the edge of your field; and don’t gather every remaining bit of your harvest. Leave these items for the poor and the immigrant; I am the LORD your God.” Leviticus 23:22 CEB

4)    FINANCIAL PEACE COMES WHEN WE HAVE A SAVINGS PLAN.

“And now let Pharaoh look for a discerning and wise man and put him in charge of the land of Egypt. Let Pharaoh appoint commissioners over the land to take a fifth of the harvest of Egypt during the seven years of abundance. They should collect all the food of these good years that are coming and store up the grain under the authority of Pharaoh, to be kept in the cities for food. This food should be held in reserve for the country, to be used during the seven years of famine that will come upon Egypt, so that the country may not be ruined by the famine.” Genesis 41:33-36 NIV

“The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get.” Proverbs 21:20 NLT

“Those who love pleasure become poor; those who love wine and luxury will never be rich.” Proverbs 21:17 NLT

I am the Door - May 19 & 20

OPENING THE DOOR TO FINANCIAL PEACE

“A feast is made for laughter, wine makes life merry, and money is the answer for everything.” Ecclesiastes 10:19 NIV

“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be loyal to the one and have contempt for the other. You cannot serve God and wealth.” Matthew 6:24 CEB

AS CHRISTIANS HOW DOES GOD WANT ME TO THINK ABOUT MONEY?

 1)    REALIZE THAT EVERYTHING BELONGS TO GOD.

“The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it. The world and all its people belong to him.” Psalm 24:1 NLT

AS A STEWARD HE WANTS US TO…

  • Recognize what is His. 
  • Manage it for His glory.

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” 1 Peter 4:10 NIV

  • Give account on the day of judgement.

See Luke 12:42-48.      

2)    BELIEVE THAT GOD WANTS YOU TO LEARN TO PROSPER HIS WAY

“Thus says the LORD, your Redeemer, The Holy One of Israel: “I am the LORD your God, Who teaches you to profit, Who leads you by the way you should go.” Isaiah 48:17 NKJV

3)    BELIEVE THAT GOD WANTS GIVES YOU POWER TO GET WEALTH FOR A PURPOSE.

“And I will give this people favor in the sight of the Egyptians; and it shall be, when you go, that you shall not go empty-handed. But every woman shall ask of her neighbor, namely, of her who dwells near her house, articles of silver, articles of gold, and clothing; and you shall put them on your sons and on your daughters. So you shall plunder the Egyptians.”” Exodus 3:21-22 NKJV

 THREE PURPOSES FOR WEALTH:

  • To establish His Kingdom and serve others.

““And you shall remember the LORD your God, for it is He who gives you power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day.” Deuteronomy 8:18 NKJV

  • To create generational wealth.

“A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children, but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous.” Proverbs 13:22 NIV

  •  To enjoy it without guilt.

“Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.” 1 Timothy 6:17 NIV

4)    LEARN TO BE CONTENT AND NOT WORRY ABOUT MONEY. 

“Now godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content.” 1 Timothy 6:6-8 NKJV

Honoring our Moms - May 12 & 13

HONORING MOMS

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you.”  Exodus 20:12 NKJV

GIVING HONOR WHERE IT IS DUE HAS TREMENDOUS POWER.

“Give to everyone what you owe them: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.” Romans 13:7 NIV 

·      HONOR RELEASES GOD’S FAVOR INTO OUR LIVES.

““Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”” Ephesians 6:2-3 NIV

·      HONOR HELPS RELEASE PEOPLE’S POTENTIAL.

“Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home.” He could not do any miracles there, except lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them.”  Mark 6:4-5 NIV

6 WAYS TO HONOR YOUR MOTHER (AND FATHER)

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” Romans 12:10 ESV

1)    FORGIVE THEM.

“Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do…” Luke 23:34a NKJV

2)    SPEAK WELL OF THEM.

“Anyone who hits his father or his mother must be put to death.” Exodus 21:15 NCV

“Anyone who says cruel things to his father or mother must be put to death.” Exodus 21:17 NCV

3)    ESTEEM THEM BOTH PUBLICLY AND PRIVATELY.

“So speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind.” 1 Thessalonians 5:8 MSG

4)    SEEK THEIR WISDOM.

“Young people take pride in their strength, but the gray hairs of wisdom are even more beautiful.” Proverbs 20:29 CEV

“Wisdom belongs to the aged, and understanding to the old.” Job 12:12 NLT

5)    SPEND TIME WITH THEM.

“Do not cast me off in the time of old age; forsake me not when my strength is spent.” Psalm 71:9 ESV

6)    PROVIDE FOR THEM. 

“But if she has children or grandchildren, their first responsibility is to show godliness at home and repay their parents by taking care of them. This is something that pleases God.” 1 Timothy 5:4 NLT

I am the Door - May 5 & 6

OPENING THE DOOR TO A BETTER LIFE

BREAKING THROUGH THE COMMUNICATION BARRIER

LOVING RELATIONSHIPS ARE BUILT ON GRACE FILLED TRUTH TELLING

“Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ…” Ephesians 4:15a NLT

THREE REASONS WE HAVE COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWNS

1)    WE MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

“Anyone who answers without listening is foolish and confused.” Proverbs 18:13 NCV

2)    WE MAKE ACCUSATIONS

“For the Scriptures say, “If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies.” 1 Peter 3:10 NLT 

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7 NKJV

3)    WE HAVE APPREHENSIONS

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18 NIV

 ·      WE ARE APPREHENSIVE ABOUT OUR WEAKNESSES

“I came to you in weakness—timid and trembling.” 1 Corinthians 2:3 NLT

 “When I am with those who are weak, I share their weakness, for I want to bring the weak to Christ. Yes, I try to find common ground with everyone, doing everything I can to save some.” 1 Corinthians 9:22 NLT

·      WE ARE APPREHENSIVE ABOUT OUR FAILURES

“Don't be happy to see your enemies trip and fall down.” Proverbs 24:17 CEV

·      WE ARE APPREHENSIVE ABOUT EXPERIENCING REJECTION

“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” Proverbs 29:25 NIV

4 TAKE AWAYS

1)    YOU MUST MAKE IT SAFE.

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18 NIV 

2)    YOU HAVE TO TAKE A RISK

“Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed..” James 5:16a NKJV

3)    YOU MUST PRACTICE SENDING CLEAR MESSAGES

“But let your “Yes” be “Yes,” and your “No,” “No,” lest you fall into judgment.” James 5:12 NKJV

4)    YOU MUST PRACTICE LISTENING TO UNDERSTAND   

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” I Peter 3:7 NIV

I am the Door - Apr 28 & 29

TURNING CONFLICT INTO BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” Matthew 5:9 NIV

 THREE PHASES OF CONFLICT

·      RECOGNITION: WE HAVE A PROBLEM.

·      REACTION: IT’S WORSE THAN WE THOUGHT.

·      RESOLUTION: WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO ABOUT IT? 

““Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil… Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” Ephesians 4:26-27, 29,  NKJV

 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Ephesians 4:2:31NIV

7 FORMS OF MALICE TO AVOID ON THE WAY TO CONFLICT RESOLUTION

“who plots evil with deceit in his heart— he always stirs up conflict.”  Proverbs 6:14 NIV

 1)     DON’T COMPARE YOUR SPOUSE.  

2 Corinthians 10:12 NIV

2)     DON’T CONDEMN YOUR SPOUSE.

3)     DON’T COMMAND YOUR SPOUSE.

4)     DON’T THREATEN YOUR SPOUSE.

5)     DON’T BE CONDESCENDING TO YOUR SPOUSE.

6)     DON’T INTERRUPT YOUR SPOUSE.

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20 NIV

7)     DON’T CONFUSE YOUR SPOUSE.

THE RESOLUTION PHASE: WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?

1)    YOU CAN ADJUST.

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”   Ephesians 5:21 NIV

2)    YOU CAN ACCEPT.

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”   Ephesians 4:2-3 NIV

3)    YOU CAN COMPROMISE.

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”  Romans 12:18 NIV 

4)    YOU CAN RESET THE RELATIONSHIP WITH FORGIVENESS.

“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”  Colossians 3:13 NIV